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The 10th  International Congress on AIDS in Asia and the Pacific is happening right now in Busan, Korea. On behalf of The Pleasure Project, our brave reporter Revati  is on the hunt for good safe sex or any mention of pleasure in sex education at the conference.

Revati is an old time pleasure propagandist who has written sexy tips, run pleasure workshops at the Colombo AIDS Conference where she diplomatically pointed out that maybe a woman’s head could be part of a pleasure body mapping. So she is well equip to seek erotic safe sex in Busan.

Here is her first post.

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The focus of the conference over the first two days has been on the protests around free trade agreements. A peaceful protest turned bad when the BEXCO (venue) security tried to disrupt the protest and when they couldn’t do it alone, they called the local police as back up. A few people were injured and two were taken to hospital. The conference organisers  issued an official  statement and apology for what happened yesterday  but attendees are worried about – what will happen to the local LGBT groups after the conference. In the aftermath it seems like the Korean LGBT groups were organising the protest and were of the impression that the conference itself was organised by some arm of the government.
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So this has been the main conversation at the conference. Discussions of  pleasure are non existent. However in one plenary, YouthLead, promisingly  spoke about how to develop a new generation of young activists.  But pleasure got lost in  language on comprehensive sex education : which could and should also mean pleasure.
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But I’m looking forward to two sessions that look more  “out of the box”. One called  “Simple pleasures: getting on with it again (living longer with HIV)”  and one about HIV alternatives.  Maybe they will tackle the importance of talking about pleasure and desire and sex. Which are still the stigmatised topics at an AIDS conference.
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There are condoms being distributed – both male and female but no lubes to be seen anywhere. When asked, where are the lubes, everyone nodded in agreement saying yes its needed but they couldn’t get any!
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So I’ll keep on hunting for any pleasure and safer sex discussions and let you know…

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It’s now proven jerking off is not bad for you and it’s even not only okay for you  – but it’s positively good for your health.   The Pleasure Project has been pushing the art of touching yourself as  safe good sex for a while. Now a recent study have shown that boys who report being regular wankers are more likely to use a condom when they have sex.

The study published in this month’s  “Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine” interviewed a small, but cross sectional sample of American young people and has many findings that would not surprise any of us pleasure seekers.

Across all ages young men admitted to wanking more than women , 74% of men to 41% women ( come on girls start admitting to your own self worship.)  Masturbation increased with age and in men the five knuckle shuffle was associated with condom use, but in women it was not.

We Pleasure Propagandists posit that this might be because those young men love touching their members and know just how to roll a condom on in a sexy way and are, lets face it, more comfortable with themselves and therefore better lovers. What’s your theory ?

The authors conclude that “Health care providers should recognize that many teens masturbate and discuss masturbation with patients because masturbation is integral to normal sexual development”.

Um yeh…..so it’s great that masturbation is being seen as “normal” by the medical world and fantastic that an association between wanking and condom use in young men has been discovered.

Just a shame that it’s taken so long.

Whats your theory – why do wanking men use condoms more ?


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So all our dear pleasure loving safety conscious sexy people,

We know that you have got the hang of talking dirty when you want safer sex. We know you say things like this.

” Sweetie let me slowly carefully consciously unroll this tight fitting sex toy all the way down your cock so that I can feel the bumps on it grind me as we fuck. “

and you follow it up with    “Because I wanna have a long relaxed sexy breakfast with you tomorrow rather than rushing out to get the morning after pill or got for an STI test”

But maybe some of you are still worried. You are having good.safe.sex.

You know how to Put the pleasure into prevention.

But what about ethical ?  What about those sexy ribbed sex toys…..can you relax knowing that no harm was done whilst they were being made ?

Worry no more.

Well we just heard that now you can buy fair trade condoms called fair squared condoms. Rubber sourced in Kerala (which  is possibly the sexiest state in India in itself…)…and then processed in a carbon neutral factory with some of the profits going to charity.

How about that. Now we can all really relax into it.

Knowing we are pleasured, protected and saving the planet as we fuck.

 

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the pleasure project

We love Good. Safe. Sex.

And we know you do too.

But what do you think of us, The Pleasure Project, and how we promote it ?

Pushing our Pleasure Propaganda. Do you like what we are doing?

Want us to do more of the same…or ease off a little?

Tell us straight. Don’t hold back.

The Pleasure Project wants to know and share exactly what you think of us and our work over the past few years. We are  re-vamping and want to know what to stop, what to start and what we could carry on pleasing you with.

What are you waiting for? Just click here on this survey. It will only take 10 minutes. You can give us your views till 15 August 2011.

 
Send it other pleasure seekers.
Don’t forget to check out our latest news here at our blog or on our website.

We have been collecting Indian fantasies, seeing what orgasms and playdoh porn look like, asking writers like Candace Bushnell why they drop the safe sex and trying to get academics to take academics to take pleasure seriously. You have been warned, if you don’t read them you are missing out.

If its been a while since you’ve heard from us. Why not take a moment to update your profile? We’ll try to be in touch a bit more regularly, but remember that you can also get updates from our blog and facebook page!

Do you know what we have been doing in 2011?


 

We have collected over 250 home grown fantasies and read them at 3 events in Delhi. It’s good safe sex.


We have learnt about play doh porn, orgasm prizes and secrets of our sex drives in Glasgow.


We explored the frontiers of lust at The Festival on the Art of Lust in Sydney. Where Ethical Sluts talk us about good.safe.sex
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This is our third and final post from Arushi at the World Sexual Health Congress in Glasgow, where she also explored the wonderful world of the orgasm.

Score one for pleasure

Orgasm – the word itself is orgasmic. It begins with making your mouth open into the O of wonder, astonishment and exciting shock and ends with your mouth closed in an mmmm of pleasure, contentment and satisfaction. Right? Hmm, not necessarily actually!

I learnt about the tome which is used by psychologists, psychiatrists, sex and relationship therapists, sexologists and other health professionals to help their diagnoses and treatments. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) has been revised several times, including the time when homosexuality was struck off it as a mental disorder.

According to the DSM, most sexual dysfunctions are defined as either not having an orgasm during sex or having one too quickly. So does that mean that orgasm is or should be the main outcome of sexual intercourse  and  sexual activity? No, says  Dr Meg Barker. Orgasms mean different things to different people and constitute different experiences, from an expression of power to a mechanical release or a display of intimacy.

This is why, she says that sex and relationship therapy aimed at enabling orgasms and being goal focused rather than pleasure focused is forcing norms on people that just don’t fit.

Sexual satisfaction shouldn’t just be about having an orgasm.

Guess who agrees with her? Dr. Beverly Whipple – yup, the one who told us all about the G-spot! She emphasised the need to be pleasure oriented rather than orgasm oriented. An orgasm is not an end in itself and all the other activities, commonly considered to ‘lead up’ to the orgasm, like kissing, holding, touching, are each an end in themselves. Also, the idea really is to experience an orgasm, rather than be under pressure to ‘reach’ or ‘achieve’ an orgasm. In her words, “a person can express their sexuality in many ways, not only through their genitals.”

That’s what we at The Pleasure Project believe as well – there are sooooo many sexy and safe ways of pleasuring yourself or each other that you could spend a month of O’s and mmmm’s just going through our list on sexy tips !


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