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Women like sex too. It’s official.

01/12/2011 in Pleasure News & Views, Uncategorized by Annie | No comments

You read it here first.

Today is World AIDS Day. Globally 34 million people are living with HIV.  2.7 million people new people are infected per year. That’s the same as the total population of Jamaica.

This years theme is “Getting To Zero” . Zero New HIV Infections. Zero Discrimination and Zero AIDS Related Deaths.

One of the Getting to Zero campaign goals is that by 2015 is ‘HIV-specific needs of women and girls are addressed in  at least half of all national HIV  responses” ….(just half …how sad).

Now you know what we are going to say.

The way to zero new infections. Is to recognise. That in general lots of people like sex. Even woman.

Especially women.

And how can we learn to say no (to sex we don’t want) if we have not learnt how to say sex YES (to sex we want).

The brilliant Tsitsi B Masvawure explains just this in a more clever way, with her special article today here: “Let’s get real: female sexual pleasure and HIV prevention”. We know Tsitsi and her work. We love her bold recognition of young women’s enjoyment of sex, the joys of sex and their quest for sexual pleasure.  And how no HIV prevention campaign will really work until it recognises female sexual desire as a reality.

70% of new HIV infections happen in Africa. The UN calls woman ‘The face of AIDS in Africa” and yet as Tsitsi says ” mistrust of African women’s sexual pleasure has become the default position in the HIV prevention world.”

Societies are on the whole uncomfortable with young women’s sexual pleasure. It’s something that they needs to be controlled. Young women are warned of the dangers of sex constantly. Wherever they live.

So just to give you a treat on this World AIDS Day we give you a collection of best condom adverts from around the world, that happen to have many feisty, sexy, pleasure seeking young women in them.

And one of them even has her own condom fairy.

Now,  how do we get one ?

 

 


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Rock for the Right to Romance

26/11/2011 in *What We're Up To, News About Us, People We Like, Pleasure News & Views, Uncategorized by Annie | No comments


Delhi is gearing up to a fantastic concert tomorrow and we are just a little bit over excited here at The Pleasure Project.

Rock for Rights will follow the city’s growing queer pride march – letting us all continue the party. It’s only two years since same sex relationships were de-criminalised in India, but since then the flourishing of queer arts and culture is obvious. Rock for Rights celebrates this with some amazing artists the Bollywood singer Rekha Bharwaj, the multi-talented Ma Faiza, The East India Company, Alisha Batth and Indian rock group Papon.

As all us pleasure seekers know learning about good safe sex is challenging the world over when sex education tends to tell you what you should NOT do and how many diseases you will get when you do IT. But trying to get good information about how to have sex you want and be safe at the same time is near impossible when the type of sex you like is illegal. Decriminalizing same sex relationships allows us to talk about sexual health in an open way.

I had a lovely chat with the marvelous Ma Faiza who will be playing her brilliant brand of sexy, uplifting electronic music tomorrow at Rock for Rights about just this. I asked her what events like Rock for Rights could do to help deliver good safe sex messages.

“Entertainment is a great platform for a social message -it reaches a more diverse audience and makes the message and the process fun”

We could agree more – after all we are all over the fun sexy safe sex message here at Pleasure Project. Traditional sex education tends to bore people and then moralise to them. But Ma says

“Access to sex education is limited in India – and especially women’s right to pleasure. Many women here don’t feel that they have the right to enjoyment – that their life and their sex life should be a journey of sufferance. That has to change.”

So roll on Ma Faiza’s set tomorrow – we love her positive attitude and think we have found a true pleasure propagandist to add to the growing ranks..

See details on how to get to Rocks for Rights and get tickets here

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Oh Sexy Hauz Kaus – fantasies from the village

25/06/2011 in *What We're Up To, News About Us, Pleasure News & Views, Uncategorized by Annie | No comments

Well hello Hauz Kaus Village. HKV  is the Soho or the Greenwich village of Delhi. It’s surrounded by parks and a beautiful lake and tomb – and is filled with antique shops specializing in old Bollywood posters, quirky cafes, wonderful neighbourhood restaurants and an independent bookstore Yodakin.  Now you might remember Yodakin, it was they who asked The Pleasure Project to hold one of our special “Share Your Pleasure” events. It rocked.

So they asked us back. This time to sit and share some fantasies from our safer sofa – during the village open night. Basically the village on open night

credit: Vidura Bahadur

has lots of fantasy potential. All the shops were open and spilled out onto the streets,  and  we sat amongst the knick knacks and read some gorgeous erotica and then encouraged the hordes (and there were) to give us their fantasies into our now famous fantasy box. We asked you what your fantasies are, what turned you on, what you played through your mind as you played with yourself.

 

So guess what we got from the hordes.  We’ll give you some clues – they were a young sexy urban and urbane Delhi crowd. Dressed to the nines. Strolling the lanes of the village.

And out of the 150 fantasies we collected the top 7 topics were …….in this order….

1. Travel – and boy would you love to travel and have sex.  In a “European train carriage” whilst “sky diving naked” “on the 18th hole of Augusta” or very specifically a “threesome with an Afghani and a Baster tribal in Paris under the Lourve”. And our personal haunting favourite ” one night with Candice again (first lover) in Timbaktoo (near Anantpur Village) under a million stars, by Shakti”

2. No surprises here at number 2 – ORGIES and threesomes in all their variety. Harems, lots of firemen, supermodels, lots of money at the orgy, “with the entire band” in a trailer van – you name you want to do it. But of course our personal favourite is “my wish is to engage in all manner of sex, really enjoy it without ever falling sick”. Yep that’s us all over – keep is good’n safe.

3. This might be a Haus Kaus thing (or maybe not) but food and sex fantasies came in at number 3.  You want to “swim in pomegranate seeds” have “chocolate mountains and chocolate fall” or quite unusually “threesome with a man doused in maple syrup and a woman wrapped in newspaper”.

Number 4 was (tra ra ra) girl on girl fantasies. In “bath tubs with petals” “wearing a dildo” “getting totally soaked in my partners cunt” and the poignant ” if you were here, we would lean into each other, duck into lanes, extract the real use from each other and life would be good. But you’re not, so I got it alone” . Ahh.

And at number 5 is a category that we classified simply a poetic – we cannot possibly do justice to the term in the space we have here. We will need to come back to it- and especially a wonderful poem that was given to us about bamboo, filtered sunlight and a cool pool of water. But here a taster or the others – your fantasies included “magnificent pink” and “trek to the hidden waterfall and romp naked with caveman beats”.

At number 6 was public sex. You are fantasizing about being super drunk and having sex with people you don’t know ( is that possible in these days of facebook…and oh have the youth of today lost the possibility of the totally anonymous fuck ), to act in porn movies  and even“the library scene from Atonement”.

Lastly we had a couple of very well described scenes where lovers turn into something else – in our case a mermaid or a cat who lived in a house under the water of the Yamuna. They were wonderful and we were there in that moment of morphing lovers as we read them. The “salt touched breasts ” “how you would love every glistening fishy scale before you had to leave heading for dry land again”.

We has a few fantasies very kindly given to us that did not fit any of these categories – and for that reason we are greedily holding them back for another time, another blog. Leaving you fantasy richer with the selection from a fun  Sunday night and with a slight sense of delayed gratification.

After all we don’t want to overwhelm you – but leave you feeling merely satisfied with the Hauz Kaus fantasy deposit into our global open source fantasy collection project. There is, after all,   nothing safer than reading a fantasy.

Enjoy. Thank you Hauz Kaus. We love you….

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We came, we read, we shared our pleasures

01/05/2011 in *What We're Up To, Meetings & Publications, News About Us, Pleasurable Products, Uncategorized by Annie | 4 comments

Thanks to all who came to Yodakin Bookstore last night and bravely wrote, read and shared their fantasies at our “Share Your Pleasure” event. We are now all the richer in our collective fantasy bank.

Let it long continue this participatory literotica festival  . . .

We had a wonderful array of fantasies -  both ones we had prepared earlier and others spontaneously added to our “fantasy box”.  Whilst people read we watched a backdrop of polymorphously perverse  images including some that attendees had sent to The Pleasure Project in advance – you naughty exhibitionists you.

The evening began with a beautiful feast with Rosalyn who whetted everyone’s appetite with her soaking, marinating chicken. Taking us deep in the art of lustful food.

 
Then with perfect timing Sumit arrived fresh from the exertions of his Haus Kaus run to glow and deliver his running fantasy. Oh the sexiness of the competition between male runners. He dis-robed and then re-robed as a laburnum tree in bloom. He admitted that he was a mixture of
“ speeding machismo, and admiring legs”

 

I then came out to admit my fetish for sofas and clasped a shiny cushion and described my current  favourite one, it’s beautiful dark wood edges and it’s perfect height, just right to catch that space between thighs and hipbone. How I often

“let the soft skin of my forearm sneak a touch of it’s upper edge”.

We also heard a couple of anonymous readings from people who were in the bookstore – but did not want to read. We like shy people, sooooo cute.

So Oroon had the pleasure of reading them. We loved hearing about the threatening intimacy of two women shaving each other and then were immediately plunged headlong  into the cool relief of two wet women with

“Handfuls of wet stretchy fabric and then finally cool skin, firm waist, a shoulder blade, the beautiful smooth roundness of her ass, a billowing curtain brushes both bodies with rain smelling wind”.

Arushi then treated us to  her favourite fantasy of public sex and one man’s unusual take on unsafe sex – that its not to be encouraged because it makes you travel through wormholes in time and space. Not worth the risk of where you will end up, we reckon.

Which led us neatly to the sex toy demos; the wonderful remote controlled vibrating egg or  the beautifully snug lubed male sheath that can be carefully teased down a dick with your lips. Even be filled with a dab of lube to give a warm wonderfully squishy feeling all over the head of his erection – and last but not least the FC2 that gives you a special tickle and if you like it a rough bump and grind during sex. The ring pushed deep into your pussy gives a feeling like someone is lightly teasing the back of your eyeballs. . .

Phew. It was a steamy night. As I walked down the quiet lane of Haus Kaus village, dazed people spilling out into the dry hot night. One woman said to me

“I have never been to anything like this, to hear people’s fantasies and write my own, but now I can’t stop thinking about that one, that one where my best friend will watch me having sex and direct the action.”

So go forth and have fun, but please pleasure each other safely.

Next up – what did people write in that fantasy box ?

What sweet inspiration did occur to you all after hearing all these fantasies ?

For that you will need to wait a while . . .

 

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Putting the Pleasure into Poverty Reduction

23/02/2011 in People We Like, Uncategorized by Annie | No comments

We  an event that happened last week.

On Valentine’s Day the UK  Department for International Development (DFID) launched a photo exhibition on sexuality and development put together by the Institute of Development Studies (IDS). Check the photos here on the IDS website.

DFID’s Permanent Secretary, Nemat Shafik, Professor Lawrence Haddad (IDS) and Carla Sutherland (from Arcus Foundation) spoke on the importance of sexuality for development and DFID’s aims. Watch the video here .

Key messages were that sex and sexuality are important in all of our lives, including poor people, whose poverty means they cannot choose supportive or non violent relationships. Young women are married against their wishes  and men cannot afford dowries . Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people are excluded from health services and therefore exposed to greater risks of ill health.  More women die during child birth or people die of AIDS because sexuality is an under researched and taboo topic . DFID’s commitment to improved family planning and reduce maternal deaths requires a deep understanding of sexuality.

Lawrence Haddad,  one of the key voices on international development ( and an uber blogger)  spoke and then blogged about sexuality and development . Lawrence urges us all to “get beyond the giggles” when we work on sexuality and poverty reduction to see how critical it is to “mainstream” development issues – why girls drop out of school or how toimprove family planning and reduce maternal deaths. He even gives little old us  here (at The Pleasure Project)  a special mention – as an organisation that works to use positive  attitudes such as romance to encourage safe behaviour .

Three Cheers for DFID and IDS and a lifetime pleasure propagandist award for Professor Haddad from us at The Pleasure Project.

It’s in the post Lawrence.

Safe Sex in The City

21/02/2011 in Pleasurable Products, Uncategorized by Annie | No comments

Go New York !

The City’s Health Department have just launched a smart phone application that allows users to locate the nearest condoms at their time of need.Their phone’s will now lead them to the 5 nearest places that have free condoms and tell them  whether they are open or not.

New York gives out 3 million free condoms a month – and the city‘s health department want to keep people safe – they say that lots of people come to New York for sex and they want to keep it safe. What a refreshing attitude.

The smart phone application uses global positioning systems to help the condom needy to free supplies of condoms – lets hope that in the future it will also talk dirty to you to keep you excited as you head out into the cold Manhattan streets to find them.

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