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talk dirty to meOur very own Anne was featured in the Guardian’s “Let’s talk about sex: why do we need good sex education?” Global Development monthly podcast posted on their website on June 15th. The podcast highlighted that sex education has become more important than ever where young people make up 1.8 billion of the world’s population.

The contributors highlight that thus far, sex-talk has consisted of the biological aspects and dangers of having sex. Liz Ford, the reporter and presenter of the podcast, states “questions about whether children and young people should receive sex education… are still hotly debated the world over.”

Many of the contributors, including Anne, agreed that sex education is a lifetime process. Remy Shawa from Sonke Gender Justice relays a story in the podcast that during an AIDS conference in Cape Town, South Africa, 2013 “an older woman [stood] up and [said], ‘Look, I am interested in talking about the choices for my children but I don’t even know what to talk about because I don’t understand my own sexuality.’” It was made clear by other contributors of the podcast that this example is the same for many adults and youths alike in much of the world.

In response to how this issue can be addressed Anne, our pleasure guru, highlights that people have sex for pleasure and the public health world has got to catch up. She says, “We have to wake up to the fact that young people are now… have got access to the internet, which is a massive change from 10, 20 years ago, and I think the public health world has got its head in the sand and we might regret this in 10 years.” She goes further to say that the Pleasure Project is “really about bridging between the pleasure world and the world of public health… our mission is to ensure that people include pleasure in sex education messages; or putting the sexy into safer sex. And also putting the safe into erotic.”

We say how unsafe sex should be at the top of the agenda for governments and global institutions. Anne highlights that in a Lancet report “unsafe sex is the highest risk factor for death and disease for young women and the second highest for young men,” and we have a global responsibility to address this. Anne makes a strong statement when she says that the World Bank ought not to “just think about increasing GDP or increasing incomes but thinking about, for what? I’ll die a happy woman when I see the World Bank actually measuring women’s pleasure or women’s wellbeing as an ultimate indicator of their investments rather than the income of populations.”

Another key point made in the podcast… It’s cheaper to educate young people on sex than it is to pay for all the impacts that come from unsafe sex. As Doortje Braeken from IPPF says, “We know from countries like Estonia where they invest in comprehensive sex education together with access to services… the abortion rate, the HIV rate, the STI rate went down. And if you then calculate it, it becomes extremely cost effective… But it’s a difficult thing to sell.”

There is a taste of this tantalizing soundbite from this well-produced and engaging podcast by the Guardian. To hear it pleasurably in full, click on the following link, http://www.theguardian.com/global-development/audio/2016/jun/15/lets-talk-about-sex-why-do-we-need-good-sex-education-podcast.

Image from Huffington Post

Image from Huffington Post

Exciting news Pleasure Propogandists…our appraoch has been singled out by the Huffington Post for a noble mention.

In the Huffington Post’s blog added June 14th, 2016, commentating on the Women Deliver 4th Global Conference in Denmark, our scintillating Anne was on point and ready for some Pleasure Project advocacy. To emphasize a key objective of the conference, educating on safe sex to youths, Anne was quoted as saying that “When we do [talk about sex]… we will protect ourselves from sexually transmitted diseases.”

The article highlights how “pleasure is the single most powerful motivating factor for sexual behavior” and how unsafe sex is the cause for HIV and other risk factors that disproportionately affect girls. Lori Sokol, the blog author, emphasizes in the piece that there are lower rates of unwanted pregnancy, abortion and STIs in Denmark than “[in] their American peers” because the “teens were more likely to have received comprehensive sexuality education that includes a focus on relationship skills that foster mutually consensual, pleasurable and responsible sex.”

The article raises how the conference also touched on the topic of early marriages or acts of sexual violence and how such experiences should not hinder us from engaging with these girls or women in “sex-positive education”. A conference panelist specialising ni  Adolescent Sexual Reproductive Health WHO, Dr. Venkatraman Chandra-Mouli, said in reference to this type of education in projects they run that “rather than focusing only on their ‘uptake’ of family planning… we also focused on their sexual well-being… [to] develop mutually respectful, loving relationships [between girls and their partners].”

Bringing it back to the Pleasure Project, the article ends with how our online tools “help women and organizations that are working to promote, advocate and campaign for pleasurable ways to have safer sex [and] map their progress.” Anne ends with the basic reasoning into why the Project emphasizes pleasure when talking about safer sex, “One is only so effective without including the other.”

For the full flavor of the blog, click on the following link, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lori-sokol/making-safe-sex-sexy_b_10456968.html.

sex and loversSexual Health is about Sex, Satisfaction and Pleasure too ! Um yes…

There is quite a buzz about this new book Sex and Lovers an explicit sex education book that actually shows young people what to do, how to do it well and has the photos to boot. We are quite proud because we feature as a resource in the book :-)

There is quite a media buzz about the limits to sex education and the beginnings of instrucational pleasure education. All one and the same of course.

See thisfrom the metro paper that seems to be very excitable.

There has also been a recent article in the Guardian newspaper that prompted and Oxfam blog highlighting the need to broader the medical definations of sexual health, teach people about sexual satisifation away from porn and making sure contraception and infection prevention feels good too ..

Woo hoo way to go the pleasure wave increases …

 

 

 

 

 

 

button_thumbIt all sounds like quite a tall order but we at pleasure towers have a theory and we have put it out there on the open democracy forum . Open Democracy ’is a digital commons – a pluralist, high quality online space free and open to all – covering world affairs, ideas and culture’

 

 

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So our view is that not only is discussion of pleasure important for expanding our ideas and sex lives into bigger broader explorations of good safe sex but also for a much more inclusive more exciting and more liberating type of sexual liberation

‘Sexual liberation is not only about more sex for some people, or more orgasms, but should prioritize pleasure, consent, and respect for a range of sexualities, (dis)abilities and body types’.

So we think that ‘Getting in touch with what we want from our sex lives might unearth much broader visions of liberation, the kind that moves beyond the individual to recognise collective visions of change’.

hippiekissIts not enough to ensure that some groups get liberation in the form of more orgasms but to open up aspirations for safe pleasure in a wider range of relationships, or for people not traditionally expected to experience pleasure.

We also stride forth on our usual pleasure propoganda that sexual pleasure does not cause sexually transmitted diseases but fear based sex education does, so we think that ..

Safer sex is promoted best through positive incentives and building communities of practise, learning from people who constantly negotiate safer sex, like sex workers, with people who are seen as the experts, like sex educators.

Anyhow read it for yourself just here in full and let us know what you think of our theory for a new kind of sexual revolution, that just might be televised this time if we let the cameras into our bedrooms.

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This week our very own rather brilliant pleasure propagandist Arushi, sings the praises of asking the right questions of your self to make the most of your sexual career. And basically taking responsibility to know what makes you feel good (and letting other people know..)

See her post here on the hiv stops with me website.

She also busts the myth that ‘real’ sex means putting his key in her ignition*  and gives some great sexy tips about all the other types of sexy stuff you can try, that is also real good safe sex.

After all you don’t want to end up like poor old Rockefeller..

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* you know ;-)  or else email us…

 

conditions for great sexHappy New Year Pleasure Propagandists ! Its been quite a year out there for pleasure and safer sex.

The year really kicked off for us when we attended an International Women’s Day Festival in London although we got a bit depressed about the lack of encouragement for women to seek pleasure.  We did find a pussy blanket that was magnificent, and not unlike our very own Great Wall of Vagina  and we take part in a wild session about feminist porn or the ability to make explicit materials that are sexy, consensual and hot. The audience trumped the panel for entertainment values with the sweetest mum in the world making a daring confession spurred on by discovering cherry lube in his room. However,  the debate was terrible with polarized positions, complete lack of evidence and personal emotional attacks. And to top it all no one mentioned sexual health or well-being. Porn was being blamed with causing sexual violence in the Congo to erectile dysfunction in ten year olds in the UK. We agreed there needs to be better research especially on access to internet porn, which allows unheard of ease to see hard core porn.

And of course the world needs to still wake up to lube and safer sex.

In the meantime getting frustrated about the lack of any informed debate on good safe porn  we wrote a chapter (hurrah) in the rather brilliant book focused on pleasure ..Could watching porn increase our expectations of safe pleasure ?

image‘Women, Sexuality and the Political Power of Pleasure’ published by Zed  We give our  new view of harm reduction and the possibilities of good safe sex in porn and some of the wonderful people who do just that. We quote a few brilliant dirty writers who always do it safe to show how much the safer sex world has to learn about pleasure from the pleasure world. The book is filled with pleasure propogandists talking good sense such as Jo Doezema who busts some myths about sex workers and pleasure, such as ….they never getting it at work or that sex work is  ’easy money’. Jo talks  sex workers as ‘pleasure professionals’ have a huge amount of skills to teach non sex workers about pleasure, something we could not agree more with at Pleasure Towers,  as the best good safe sex skills can often  be traced back to a sex worker.

 

omgAnd then in March Bill Gates dared to say the word pleasure…..and issued a call for more pleasurable condoms. WOW. We held onto our hats and latexgot quite excited. It felt like the Pleasure WAVE was building and we also had pleasure articles on national  US radio and the Huffington Post. So we said  “Hurrah!” to the Gates Grand Challenge – but with some trepidation – as the call asks for only ‘product changing’ proposals. This is not just a techno fix…We know that the biggest sexual organ is the brain. …

That is a vibrating cock ring feels sexy, why can’t the ring of a female condom ? Or if a tight fitting latex pants are  hot ?

Why can’t the slow roll of a condom down a dick feel the same way ?

But onward and upward….and upward indeed. In April we were featured in a rather brilliant article in The Guardian ‘Lets be more open about the Joy of Sex’ In this our work to map pleasure work and see pleasure as the primary motivation for sex as a positive and a way forward. The Pleasure Project took part in an online chat with The Guardian about how sex education needs to move away from the mechanics of sex to the skills and joy of it.

masturabtionIn May, International Masturbation Month we urged you all to take pleasure into our own hands and have some good safe solo sex and got a mention in the New Yorker about our pleasure salons in Delhi’s bookstores..

Later in the year we were asked to give an Ignite Talk at the HIVOS Open for Change which brought a huge range of social innovators to Rotterdam to talk about how they are changing the world. We heard about alternative currencies in Brazil, art in Kenya and computer gaming for social change. We also gave an Ignite Talk, a rather petrifying experience..called the TED X on speed.….

and ran a workshop with the rather Brilliant ‘O Project’ our long lost sister spreading the word about the beauty of female pleasure in Indonesia.

The year wrapped up with a BIG bang. We launched our new website and tool kit ‘ The Trainers Guide to the Secrets of Mixing Pleasure and Prevention‘ at the Bangkok AIDS conference.

We hosted a packed out satellite meeting ‘Saying Yes to Good Safe Sex’ with interesting debates about the skills needed to have good and safer sex, but also some interesting questions to  one of our speakers.  See the chat on twitter. Ana Santos, ever the good sport got down on all fours to show some really practical ways to have good safe sex. Arushi talks about it all here and how the audience called for some pleasure GPS. And videos of the workshop attendees selling good hot safe sex are here.

We also launched in partnership a good sexy erotic video site Tongue in Cheek TV with real couples enjoying satisfying good safer sex and a huge video library to download for your pleasure.. Here is a snap from one of the scenes..and take a look at the videos. You can try three for free..

See you all in 2014 for more hot safe sex…

 

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