button_thumbIt all sounds like quite a tall order but we at pleasure towers have a theory and we have put it out there on the open democracy forum . Open Democracy ’is a digital commons – a pluralist, high quality online space free and open to all – covering world affairs, ideas and culture’

 

 

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So our view is that not only is discussion of pleasure important for expanding our ideas and sex lives into bigger broader explorations of good safe sex but also for a much more inclusive more exciting and more liberating type of sexual liberation

‘Sexual liberation is not only about more sex for some people, or more orgasms, but should prioritize pleasure, consent, and respect for a range of sexualities, (dis)abilities and body types’.

So we think that ‘Getting in touch with what we want from our sex lives might unearth much broader visions of liberation, the kind that moves beyond the individual to recognise collective visions of change’.

hippiekissIts not enough to ensure that some groups get liberation in the form of more orgasms but to open up aspirations for safe pleasure in a wider range of relationships, or for people not traditionally expected to experience pleasure.

We also stride forth on our usual pleasure propoganda that sexual pleasure does not cause sexually transmitted diseases but fear based sex education does, so we think that ..

Safer sex is promoted best through positive incentives and building communities of practise, learning from people who constantly negotiate safer sex, like sex workers, with people who are seen as the experts, like sex educators.

Anyhow read it for yourself just here in full and let us know what you think of our theory for a new kind of sexual revolution, that just might be televised this time if we let the cameras into our bedrooms.

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This week our very own rather brilliant pleasure propagandist Arushi, sings the praises of asking the right questions of your self to make the most of your sexual career. And basically taking responsibility to know what makes you feel good (and letting other people know..)

See her post here on the hiv stops with me website.

She also busts the myth that ‘real’ sex means putting his key in her ignition*  and gives some great sexy tips about all the other types of sexy stuff you can try, that is also real good safe sex.

After all you don’t want to end up like poor old Rockefeller..

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* you know ;-)  or else email us…

 

conditions for great sexHappy New Year Pleasure Propagandists ! Its been quite a year out there for pleasure and safer sex.

The year really kicked off for us when we attended an International Women’s Day Festival in London although we got a bit depressed about the lack of encouragement for women to seek pleasure.  We did find a pussy blanket that was magnificent, and not unlike our very own Great Wall of Vagina  and we take part in a wild session about feminist porn or the ability to make explicit materials that are sexy, consensual and hot. The audience trumped the panel for entertainment values with the sweetest mum in the world making a daring confession spurred on by discovering cherry lube in his room. However,  the debate was terrible with polarized positions, complete lack of evidence and personal emotional attacks. And to top it all no one mentioned sexual health or well-being. Porn was being blamed with causing sexual violence in the Congo to erectile dysfunction in ten year olds in the UK. We agreed there needs to be better research especially on access to internet porn, which allows unheard of ease to see hard core porn.

And of course the world needs to still wake up to lube and safer sex.

In the meantime getting frustrated about the lack of any informed debate on good safe porn  we wrote a chapter (hurrah) in the rather brilliant book focused on pleasure ..Could watching porn increase our expectations of safe pleasure ?

image‘Women, Sexuality and the Political Power of Pleasure’ published by Zed  We give our  new view of harm reduction and the possibilities of good safe sex in porn and some of the wonderful people who do just that. We quote a few brilliant dirty writers who always do it safe to show how much the safer sex world has to learn about pleasure from the pleasure world. The book is filled with pleasure propogandists talking good sense such as Jo Doezema who busts some myths about sex workers and pleasure, such as ….they never getting it at work or that sex work is  ’easy money’. Jo talks  sex workers as ‘pleasure professionals’ have a huge amount of skills to teach non sex workers about pleasure, something we could not agree more with at Pleasure Towers,  as the best good safe sex skills can often  be traced back to a sex worker.

 

omgAnd then in March Bill Gates dared to say the word pleasure…..and issued a call for more pleasurable condoms. WOW. We held onto our hats and latexgot quite excited. It felt like the Pleasure WAVE was building and we also had pleasure articles on national  US radio and the Huffington Post. So we said  “Hurrah!” to the Gates Grand Challenge – but with some trepidation – as the call asks for only ‘product changing’ proposals. This is not just a techno fix…We know that the biggest sexual organ is the brain. …

That is a vibrating cock ring feels sexy, why can’t the ring of a female condom ? Or if a tight fitting latex pants are  hot ?

Why can’t the slow roll of a condom down a dick feel the same way ?

But onward and upward….and upward indeed. In April we were featured in a rather brilliant article in The Guardian ‘Lets be more open about the Joy of Sex’ In this our work to map pleasure work and see pleasure as the primary motivation for sex as a positive and a way forward. The Pleasure Project took part in an online chat with The Guardian about how sex education needs to move away from the mechanics of sex to the skills and joy of it.

masturabtionIn May, International Masturbation Month we urged you all to take pleasure into our own hands and have some good safe solo sex and got a mention in the New Yorker about our pleasure salons in Delhi’s bookstores..

Later in the year we were asked to give an Ignite Talk at the HIVOS Open for Change which brought a huge range of social innovators to Rotterdam to talk about how they are changing the world. We heard about alternative currencies in Brazil, art in Kenya and computer gaming for social change. We also gave an Ignite Talk, a rather petrifying experience..called the TED X on speed.….

and ran a workshop with the rather Brilliant ‘O Project’ our long lost sister spreading the word about the beauty of female pleasure in Indonesia.

The year wrapped up with a BIG bang. We launched our new website and tool kit ‘ The Trainers Guide to the Secrets of Mixing Pleasure and Prevention‘ at the Bangkok AIDS conference.

We hosted a packed out satellite meeting ‘Saying Yes to Good Safe Sex’ with interesting debates about the skills needed to have good and safer sex, but also some interesting questions to  one of our speakers.  See the chat on twitter. Ana Santos, ever the good sport got down on all fours to show some really practical ways to have good safe sex. Arushi talks about it all here and how the audience called for some pleasure GPS. And videos of the workshop attendees selling good hot safe sex are here.

We also launched in partnership a good sexy erotic video site Tongue in Cheek TV with real couples enjoying satisfying good safer sex and a huge video library to download for your pleasure.. Here is a snap from one of the scenes..and take a look at the videos. You can try three for free..

See you all in 2014 for more hot safe sex…

 

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ThisArushi licking lips is a guest blog from our very own Arushi, who is in Bangkok fighting the good fight..she collected this brilliant quote..

“My sexuality is a gift from God and if I undermine it then I’m undermining the image of God. That’s why I teach women about pleasure and encourage them to touch themselves and know their own bodies, because men have no GPS, so the women need to guide them!” (session hosted by TARSHI)

So said a female religious leader at the 11th Asian AIDS conference held in

How else to arrive at the pleasure session ?

How else to arrive at the pleasure session ?

Bangkok last week. The Pleasure Project was there and hoping that pleasure would surround us like a warm mist. However it was a bit of a pleasure void, except of course us with our sessions ‘ Having good safe sex means saying no to bad sex’ and our pleasure comrades TARSHI.

With pleasure being one of the key themes of the conference, we were excited to see who else was sexing up safer sex. We did spot the Vagina Door and , there was some male on male ‘Foreplay – the APCOM pre-conference on male and transgender sexual health  at the pre-conference..

There was some very important messages at the ‘Foreplay’ conference – Chris Beyrer from Johns Hopkins spoke about a study in Thailand that had followed negative males who have sex with males and found that about a third of them became HIV positive over the course of five years. The highest new infections were among the youngest men and he spoke about the fact that while most studies look at individual risk, this was not enough to tell us why they are not having safer sex. Sexual networks and the individuals who make up these networks are worthy of more detailed study with the fact that men who have sex with men might be the top in one situation (putting their penis in for anal sex) and yet be the bottom i.e. getting fucked  by a partner’s penis in another sexual encounter. There is also the scary fact that the probability of HIV transmission per act of anal intercourse is 18 times higher than that of vaginal intercourse (regardless of gender and sexual orientation). Therefore, despite the evidence of effectiveness around treatment as prevention, condoms still needed to be promoted. And what better way to do that than in a sexy, erotic way, we say!

Sadly though, we didn’t find any other mention of pleasure, apart from our own designing good safe sex

Designing Good Safe Sex

Designing Good Safe Sex

satellite session and skills building workshop and one workshop on Women and Sexual Pleasure by our fellow pleasure propagandists at TARSHI. Perhaps that’s why our Satellite Session was packed to capacity and generated so much interest among people wanting to learn exactly how they can get it on in a sexy way with condoms!

We launched our spanking new website at the satellite and talked all about the

Training on female pleasure ?

Training on female pleasure ?

toolkit that is now available on it for sex educators and others working on sexual health interventions. The toolkit tells you how to help people talk hot and sexy about safer sex and condoms. And because we believe that discussions on pleasure are linked with open communication between partners, our website has a cool, interactive section where you can tell us all about your experience of using the toolkit!

Other stimulating people who spoke at the satellite were, Dennis Altman from La Trobe University, who was categorical that sexual pleasure depends on equality and is very real and great, Ana Santos, our pleasure propagandist from the Philippines, who talked all about her sexy, sassy work with young people and sexuality in her country and Suzanne Noble on skype, who launched Tongueincheek.tv, the newest item to come out of the union between the pleasure industry and public health. After The Pleasure Project’s condom consultancy for porn films, Tongueincheek.tv brings a steaming mobile app that allows users to download clips of sexy, safe porn.

We then got the chance to share our spicy skills from the toolkit and had a blast with creating erotic adverts for male and female condoms, lube and non-penetrative sex! See the videos here….

Sexing Up Safer Sex Workshop participants jazz it up

icaapHello Pleasure Propagandists…

The Pleasure Project has landed in Bangkok to to spread desire, romance and pleasure amongst the good people at ICAAP 11 the 11th Asian AIDS conference.

We are buzzed because we will be launching our new website and tool kit – The trainers Guide to the secrets of mixing pleasure and prevention  tomorrow at our special Satellite Session.

Saying Yes to Good Safe Sex  in Hall L starting at 1pm.

 Most dialogue around AIDS – including at AIDS conferences – has omitted any discussion of sexual pleasure and Safer sex campaigns have focused almost exclusively on fear-based messages to promote safer sex. This is despite strong evidence that fear of disease is not a strong motivator for safer sex. In ignoring pleasure, the HIV/AIDS community is ignoring one of its most potent tools in stopping the spread of the disease. the pleasure project at bangkok

In this satellite we are going to launch a new sex education tool kit for sex educatorsThe Trainer’s Guide: Secrets of mixing Pleasure and Protection’. This is written in the form of exercises for practitioners; to enable those keen to promote good safe sex with the current evidence of how and where this works. 

We will draw on speakers and presentations with real experience of eroticising safer sex. Speakers have promoted good safe sex in sex education, via their websites and in their own bedrooms. Our very own Arushi Singh will kick off the session by showing all the resources out there to help you eroticise safer sex.

We are going to hear from Professor Dennis Altman, Mr Global Sex himself, about the long history to discuss the realities of sex globally and his part in that.

We also have the pleasure of hearing from Ana Santos  who leads the charge in the Philippines to sexy up reproductive health.

Last but not least Suzanne Noble will join us virtually to launch Tongue in Cheek TV with real couple showing how safe sex can be wild sex, with videos and lots of tips on choosing the right sex toys to text message flirting, bikini line etiquette to sex positions, masturbation techniques.

Lots to hear about from pleasure lovers who avoid negativity and focus on what feels good…watch this space.. and of course @thepleasureproj

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oh teresa Hysterical Literature.This is very very hot. Like very. Women are reading books in a studio whilst a rather skilled fluffer is under their table making them come.(And this is the best bit) whilst they try and read and remain composed.

Check out Stormy and Teresa. Wow.  Btw would you two like to come over to pleasure towers and just  continue to show the world how sexy a bit of clit flitting can be?

But of course our point is. There is lots and lots of good safe sex out there. Reading aloud whilst your friend tickles your fancy. Can’t get safer than that. And even better you might want to indulge in a little fantasy.

We love all that over here in pleasureland. See here for Share your pleasure evenings in Delhi for example. 

And, my two finger tangoists, you can combine it with the ultimate art of self love and safely.

Go on.talk yourself

Play with yourself tonight.

 

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